The Mathematics of Marriage: Predicting Divorce (John Gottman)
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The Mathematics of Marriage: Predicting Divorce (John Gottman)
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In over 40 years of research with over 3,000 couples, Dr. John Gottman identified what he called "the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse," the 4 leading causes of separation and divorce. The first of these is Criticism. The antidote to Criticism is what we call "Gentle Startup." | Happy Couples Healthy Communities
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In over 40 years of research with over 3,000 couples, Dr. John Gottman identified what he called "the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse," the 4 leading causes of separation and divorce. The first of these is Criticism. The antidote to Criticism is what we call "Gentle Startup." | Happy Couples Healthy Communities
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John Gottman says the #1 predictor of divorce is CONTEMPT. Not conflict. Not money. Not communication issues or different values. So let’s be clear about what contempt actually is. Contempt is the moment respect leaves the relationship. It’s when irritation turns into superiority. When frustration becomes disgust. When one partner feels above the other. It shows up as: • eye-rolling • sarcasm • mocking • dismissive tone • “You always…” / “You never…” • shutting down instead of staying engaged Go
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John Gottman says the #1 predictor of divorce is CONTEMPT. Not conflict. Not money. Not communication issues or different values. So let’s be clear about what contempt actually is. Contempt is the moment respect leaves the relationship. It’s when irritation turns into superiority. When frustration becomes disgust. When one partner feels above the other. It shows up as: • eye-rolling • sarcasm • mocking • dismissive tone • “You always…” / “You never…” • shutting down instead of staying engaged Go
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Dr. John Gottman's research showed that couples on the path to divorce had 1.25 negative interactions in conflict conversations for every positive interaction. Thankfully, it's possible for partners to get on the right track. | The Gottman Institute
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Dr. John Gottman's research showed that couples on the path to divorce had 1.25 negative interactions in conflict conversations for every positive interaction. Thankfully, it's possible for partners to get on the right track. | The Gottman Institute
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Dr. John Gottman's research shows that contempt is the number 1 indicator of divorce. Not infidelity. Not conflict. Not poor communication. Contempt. Now certainly those previously listed things could lead to Contempt, so its good to deal with those. But that's the point - deal with those before they lead you to contempt. 🔥 Our 30-Day Relationship Revival Challenge teaches you how to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts as a team, rebuild connection, and restore intimacy! Challenge starts
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Out of guesses? After watching thousands of couples argue in his lab, world-renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman identified specific communication patterns that predict divorce. 😮💔 He called them The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and they are: ⚔️ Defensiveness 🧱 Stonewalling 🗣️ Criticism 💀 Contempt Of these four, the most destructive one is… 🔥 Contempt. Here are some indicators that contempt may be showing up in your relationship: Disrespect 🥸 Mocking ❌ Sarcasm 🙄 Eye-rolling
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According to couples therapist Dr. John Gottman, the Four Horsemen, behavioral predictors of divorce or break-up, are criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. Dr. Gottman conducted additional research in 1999 where he predicted divorce with 90% accuracy based on the first three minutes of a conversation. What he noticed was that couples who started their conflict conversation with criticism and elicited defensiveness in their partner ended up divorcing vs. couples who used gentle st
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Out of guesses? After watching thousands of couples argue in his lab, world-renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman identified specific communication patterns that predict divorce. 😮💔 He called them The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and they are: ⚔️ Defensiveness 🧱 Stonewalling 🗣️ Criticism 💀 Contempt Of these four, the most destructive one is… 🔥 Contempt. Here are some indicators that contempt may be showing up in your relationship: Disrespect 🥸 Mocking ❌ Sarcasm 🙄 Eye-rolling
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The Gottman Institute on Instagram: "Dr. John Gottman can predict divorce with over 90% accuracy. What is he paying attention to? It’s about the little things—tone of voice, turning away instead of leaning in, missed chances to connect. In this clip, the Gottmans break down what they’ve learned from decades of research and what to do if you’re starting to notice these signs. 💬 Comment “GOTTMANPATTERNS” and we’ll send you a link to the full episode."
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John Gottman can spot a divorce coming with this one gesture…@The Diary Of A CEO #foryou #diaryofaceo #podcasts
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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist | John Gottman’s research identifies four toxic patterns that predict divorce — and often, infidelity: criticism, contempt, defensiveness,... | Instagram
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