4 Body Language Secrets That Make Any Man Want You Instantly 1. Slow down everything. Rushed movements read as nervous. Calm, unhurried movements read as confidence. When you walk, sit, turn your head, or reach for something, do it slower than usual. Men feel grounded around women who move like they know they belong in the room. 2. Hold eye contact… then break it first. Look at him like you’re listening, really listening, then look away before the moment gets awkward. That pause creates tension.